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Couples by Intention: Creating and Cultivating Relationships that Matter

Wouldn't it be great if relationships came easy? What if we all just knew intuitively what to do to make our marriages and committed partnerships the absolute best and deepest that they could be?

But the reality is that none of us are pros, and even our best relationships can go deeper. We often use love and sex as measurements for how developed our relationships are, but in reality, the glue between us is being intentional with one another, and learning to use curiosity as a strategic relationship tool.

Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Daring Greatly is not about winning or losing. It’s about courage. In a world where “never enough” dominates and feeling afraid has become second nature, vulnerability is subversive. Uncomfortable. It’s even a little dangerous at times. And, without question, putting ourselves out there means there’s a far greater risk of getting criticized or feeling hurt. But when we step back and examine our lives, we will find that nothing is as uncomfortable, dangerous, and hurtful as standing on the outside of our lives looking in and wondering what it would be like if we had the courage to step into the arena - whether it’s a new relationship, an important meeting, the creative process, or a difficult family conversation.

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—and Keep—Love

Psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love.

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom

In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, The Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship

Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist’s flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.”

How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving

“Most people think of love as a feeling,” says Richo, “but love is not so much a feeling as a way of being present.” How to Be an Adult in Relationships explores five hallmarks of mindful loving and how they play a key role in our relationships .Adult love is based on a mutual commitment to what Richo calls the “five A’s”: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing.

Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love, revised edition: Relationship Repair in a Flash

A brilliant interactive relationship tool that can help couples stop arguing and begin healing

MATING IN CAPTIVITY

One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy

Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships

Opening Up: A Guide To Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships

Expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships — from partnered non-monogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting and time management. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy.

The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love

For 20 years The Ethical Slut—widely known as the “Poly Bible”—has dispelled myths and showed curious readers how to maintain a successful polyamorous lifestyle through open communication, emotional honesty, and safer sex practices. The third edition of this timeless guide to the ethics of relationships, communication, and sex.

Mating In Captivity

One of the world’s most respected voices on erotic intelligence, Esther Perel offers a bold, provocative new take on intimacy and sex. Mating in Captivity invites us to explore the paradoxical union of domesticity and sexual desire, and explains what it takes to bring lust home.

Reclaiming Desire: 4 Keys to Finding Your Lost Libido

Reclaiming Desire presents the holistic approach that gynecologist Andrew Goldstein and clinical psychologist Marianne Brandon—co-founders of the Sexual Wellness Center in Annapolis, Maryland—use to successfully treat women with low libido.

Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships

A radically inclusive, sex-positive guide to managing the inevitable libido differences in our relationships, authored by two certified sex therapists who are passionate about good sex
Desire invites readers of all ages, genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures to shed the shame and misinformation that surround the topic of sex and instead learn from 2 certified sex therapists about how libido really works.

The Sex Starved Marriage

It is estimated that one of every three married couples struggles with problems associated with mismatched sexual desire. Do you? If you want to stop fighting about sex and revitalize your intimate connection with your spouse, then you need this book. In The Sex-Starved Marriage, bestselling author Michele Weiner Davis will help you understand why being complacent or bitter about ho-hum sex might cost you your relationship.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge

The Ultimate Guide to Kink is the first major guide to BDSM in a generation—a bold and sexy collection of essays that run the gamut from expert how-to tutorials to provocative essays that delve into complex questions about desire, power, and pleasure.

The New Topping Book

Dossie Easton has taught tens of thousands of people the joyous arts of BDSM topping and bottoming - not just "how-to," but "why-to"... the insider details of emotional support and ethical interaction during kinky play.

The New Bottoming Book

In the early 1990s, the first Bottoming Book taught tens of thousands of people that bottoming -- being a submissive, masochist, slave, 'boy' or 'girl, ' or other BDSM recipient -- is as much an art as topping. Since then, the growing popularity of BDSM, and the blossoming of the Internet as a source of information and connection, have created a whole new universe of possibilities for players.

Hesitant Mistress

The submissive man in a vanilla relationship faces a daunting challenge. How can he convince his demure girlfriend to take charge without turning her off? How can he show her that female domination is not a sick stereotype, but a healthy and romantic way to enhance her life? This book is the answer to his prayers. His girlfriend's hesitation is perfectly understandable. Since female dominants are so often depicted as arrogant sadists intent on hurting and humiliating men, it's not surprising that any woman would feel reluctant to adopt this role in her relationship. After all, who would treat her beloved partner as if she hated him? But she has no need to worry. The real female dominant is not a cruel psychopath. Her relationship involves mutual trust, cooperation, and communication. She can be nurturing and reasonable. She can share her feelings and needs. She can be herself, more bravely than ever - and her partner will love her for it.

FEMDOM for Nice Girls

From childhood onwards, females are encouraged into subservient roles, so that taking the lead can feel strange and unnatural, even "unfeminine" and "not nice". We are discouraged from aggressively grabbing what we want, and instead encouraged to sacrifice and nurture. We are taught to be prizes, not competitors.

Surely, there has to be more to life than that. Many men -- the ones who value assertiveness (and even a little cruelty) in their female lovers would agree. So would many women.

If you're one of these women, or if your man is one of those men, then this book could be just what you and he have been searching for.

Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage (Midori)

From ornately decorative to excruciatingly stringent, Japanese rope bondage is an art which has developed over centuries of martial and erotic practice. Now, accomplished Japanese-born educator and bondage practitioner, Midori shows step by step how to achieve beautiful and exciting Japanese bondage on a variety of genders and body types. Each chapter starts with a spectacular, tasteful full-color photo of the finished bondage pose - harnesses, hogties, standing and bent-over poses, and more - then goes back and explains with text and line art how each rope and knot is placed to achieve the final result.

WILD side of sex: The Book of kink (midori)

Wild Side Sex is an excellent gateway into the world of fetish and kink for curious explorers. Using her well-known mix of humor, sensuality, and ethics, Midori takes readers through her own adventures while giving straightforward advice about how to find your way past media fantasies and into the very rich, very real pleasures of kink.

Kinky Toys

Vampire Gloves

“Vampire gloves are soft, sexy leather gloves with fierce metal points on the fingers. They create an intense, prickly sensation great for sensory play. Long, smooth strokes with the prickly tacks are sure to cause goosebumps. Especially delicious with a blindfold!” Spectrum Boutique

• Sensation Play

• Kink

• BDSM

• Impact Play

Buffalo Hide Flogger (Rapture)

If it is a solid thuddy feel you crave, this flogger is for you. Thick and soft buffalo cut into 28 falls one-half inch wide and 19 inches long will deliver that thump you seek. @Janet’s Closet

Neoprene Houndstooth Flogger (primal Pleasure)

Unrivaled quality and craftsmanship goes into each of these unique pieces and they certainly don’t disappoint.  As a Vegan & Eco-Friendly alternative to traditional leather, you will find the thuddy sting of neoprene to be quite pleasing.

Each flogger has a 3mil clear chemical-resistant cover over the handle for easy cleaning.  Simply use a Lysol wipe and allow it to dry.

Floggers are 24″ long.  Falls measure between 16″ and 18″ and are 1/16″ thick.

-Eco-Friendly
-Vegan-Friendly
-Made in USA
-Easier to Clean and Sanitize than traditional leather @ Janet’s Closet

Restraint Set (Rapture)

Beautiful limited edition restraint set by Rapture Leather.  Gorgeous burgundy metallic leather with black leather lining and trim.

Set Includes:

1 Posture Collar – Will fit 17″-20″ Neck Size, 2″ Wide
2 Wrist Cuffs with matching connector clip
2 Ankle Cuffs with matching connector clip
1 Chain Leash with matching handle

Sizing:
Collar – Will fit approx. 17″-20″ Neck Size, 2″ Wide
Wrist Cuffs – Will fit approx. 6″-10″
Ankle Cuffs – Will fit approx. 8″-12″
Chain Leash – 37″ Including Handle @ Janet’s Closet

Short Horse RIDING Crop

Riding Crop 18”

Riding crop 28”

Spreader Bar

50”Whip

Dragon Tail (Short) Primal Pleasures

LEather Thumper

Nipple Clamps (Butterfly style)

Nipple Clamps

Breathable ball gag

Wicked Sticks

Coconut Rope

Recommended Stores: Spectrum Boutique, Primal Pleasures, Janet’s Closet

She Comes First: Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasing a Woman

As women everywhere will attest, men are "ill-cliterate." But in the pages of She Comes First, the mystery of female satisfaction is solved, and the tongue is proven mightier than the sword.

Come As You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life

In the years since the book’s initial publication, countless women have learned through Nagoski’s accessible and informative guide that things like stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual well-being; they are central to it - and that even if you don’t always feel like it, you are already sexually whole by just being yourself.

Enliven Your Sex Life!

Understand sexual anatomy—yours and your partner’s—for maximum pleasure. Get your sexual needs met through conversation with your partner. Use touch for sensual stimulation and arousal.Find the best sex positions for enjoyment during intercourse. Help a woman have orgasms—more easily, and more pleasurable.

Beyond Satisfied: A Sex Hacker's Guide to Endless Orgasms, Mind-Blowing Connection, and Lasting Confidence

Most people think being good at sex comes naturally. Either you have it, or you don’t.

Kenneth Play is proof that great lovers are made, not born.

When You're The One Who Cheats: Ten Things You Need To Know

Ten Things You Need to Know is a book for anyone having an affair or indiscretion of any kind and who is confused, unsure and looking for answers. When you’re the one who cheats, it can feel like you have no options.

After the Affair, Third Edition: Healing the Pain and Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful

After the Affair, with more than 600,000 copies sold, helps guide both hurt and unfaithful partners through three stages of healing: normalizing the crisis, deciding whether to recommit to their partner, and rekindling trust and sexual intimacy.

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships

“Sex at Dawn challenges conventional wisdom about sex in a big way. By examining the prehistoric origins of human sexual behavior the authors are able to expose the fallacies and weaknesses of standard theories proposed by most experts. This is a provocative, entertaining, and pioneering book. I learned a lot from it and recommend it highly.” — Andrew Weil, M.D.

The State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity

Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”

10 Steps Completely Overcome Vaginismus: The Practical Approach to Pain-Free Intercourse

Viva la Vulva: Your guide to breaking free of vulvar pain

There are plenty of ways to treat vulvodynia, and with help, it’s 100% possible to take back control of your life and relationships. In this book was written for you by practicing physicians, pelvic physiotherapists, and scientists with years of experience to smash the stigma and empower you with the knowledge you need to rid yourself of vulvar pain.

Vagina Problems

Five years of doctors insisting she just had “bad period cramps,” or implying her pain was psychological. Shamed and stigmatized, Lara fought back against a medical community biased against women and discovered that the ignorance of many doctors about women’s anatomy was damaging more than just her own life. One in ten women have endometriosis and it takes an average of seven years before they receive an accurate diagnosis―or any relief from this incurable illness’ chronic pain.

With candid revelations about her vaginal physical therapy, dating as a straight woman without penetrative sex, coping with painful seizures while at the office, diet and wardrobe malfunctions when your vagina hurts all the time, and the depression and anxiety of feeling unloved.

The New Male Sexuality: The Truth About Men, Sex, and Pleasure

The New Male Sexuality addresses the most urgent questions of men today--and of the women who love them.  Bernie Zilbergeld reports findings from his twenty years as a psychologist specializing in human sexuality, as well as those other experts in the field, and shares his own and his clients' experiences.  the result is the most comprehensive guide ever to enhancing desire and arousal, focusing on pleasure rather than performance, and keeping sex exciting and fulfilling.

Coping with Erectile Dysfunction: How to Regain Confidence and Enjoy Great Sex

The truth of the matter is, though, that ED is often a complex condition affected by physical, psychological, and relationship issues—and it’s a problem shared by both a man and his partner. This book is the first ever to address this common problem using a comprehensive biological, psychological, and social approach. It offers a proven-effective program for regaining erectile function, building strong and intimate relationships, and having great sex.

Coping With Premature Ejaculation: How to Overcome PE, Please Your Partner & Have Great Sex

It is estimated that 30 million American men have problems with premature ejaculation. This book contains the latest, scientifically-based, multidimensional methods for overcoming all types of premature ejaculation and includes a complete relapse prevention program.

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